Wedding planning is often described as stressful and full of difficulty, but in reality, it can be one of the most fun experiences you have. Keeping in mind that your wedding day is a celebration of your love and that it comes down to what the pair of you want is the key to keeping plans on the calm side of life. Unless you’re planning a wedding at the last minute, there is a good chance that you have plenty of time to arrange all of the details – both major and minor.
To help your planning be a little easier, here are some ideas for you to consider for your wedding plan.
Date & Venue
Before doing anything you should make sure you have a date and venue booked. Something a lot of people do is commit to a date without a venue and that is a major mistake. The more attached you are to a specific day the harder it might be to get the perfect location. Have a rough idea of the time of year that you would ideally like to get hitched, unless the date you are working on has a specific meaning to you both.
When considering the venue, make sure you are taking into account the time of year you are planning on getting married. If you choose a property that has fantastic grounds for guests to explore and for the photographer to snap you in then you will want to give yourself the best chance at good weather conditions. On the flip side of that, if you have your heart set on a winter or Christmas wedding then you should ensure the venue is appropriate – warm, lots of inside space, etc.
Once you have booked a venue and have the date secured then you should get sending your save the dates to guests as soon as possible. At the very least you should send them to the most important guests such as family and close friends. You may still be working on a full list of who to invite, but you will know almost immediately who the VIP guests are.
After you have the date and venue booked the order in which you plan the rest of the wedding is up to you, within reason. There are some legal issues that you need to get arranged within a certain timeframe but that will depend on your local governing body.
So let’s discuss one of the essential parts of any wedding ceremony, the rings. This should be a conversation between the pair of you so that you are in agreement. The rings are going to symbolize your wedding day and marriage for the rest of your lives so you need to be happy with what you choose. Whether you want to go for a modern twist and get matching tattoos on the ring finger or something more traditional like Lab-Grown Diamonds, you should be in agreement.
Having a consensus between you is going to be vital to the success of your wedding plans. You are looking to arrange your wedding in the least stressful way possible, so make the most of each other’s ideas and your shared goals for this special day.
One of the biggest problems a lot of couple face is the plans for the ceremony, in particular, the writing of personal vows. While these can be a beautiful way to express one’s love, they can also be challenging for someone who isn’t comfortable with their own words. The important thing to remember is that far from what Hollywood films would have you believe, not being able to find the words is not a sign of how much or how little someone feels. It is simply that some people are more comfortable expressing themselves than others.
If you do choose to go down the personal vows route, try to speak from the heart as much as possible. You should avoid dictionary definitions and cliches that you have read online. The truth is the vows are for you and your spouse only so make them as personal as you wish, cite in-jokes and experiences. Your relationship is built on the foundations of your life together and using that as your basis for expressing yourself and making promises to care and love each other is as good as anything you’ll find online.
The ceremony can also be difficult to plan if you have several people who want to do readings. Once again remember that this is about you and if someone has something personal to say to you that can put in a card or speak to you around the day. Too many readings will make the ceremony go on too long for you and your guests, but if you want to have something said then make sure you are part of the choosing discussion.
Lastly, let’s look at what to expect in the evening. This is the time for you and your guests to let loose and just enjoy the happy day. One way that you’re all going to do that is by dancing and so the music selection is going to be the important factor here. Now, there are a few things to consider and the traditional methods are a DJ or live band. Both have their pros and cons, and ultimately the decision is a very personal one. However, try to avoid making your music selections too niche; you want all of your guests to join you on the dancefloor so a little bit of something for everyone is a nice thing to do.
If you are looking to save some cash then you might want to consider being your own DJ. No, that doesn’t mean donning the headphones and standing behind the decks. Thanks to the many streaming services available these days you can create your own wedding music playlist and let that be what guides your evening’s celebrations. One of the joys of this idea is that in years to come you will have your playlist saved on your account to remember the best day of your life forever.